I have kept something from friends and family. I have not done this on purpose and some people do know, but for those who don’t, it is not because you aren’t important to me or because we aren’t close. I have kept this to myself because I didn’t know how to say it, when to say it, or how you would react. So, here it is…our Dominic was diagnosed with Down Syndrome.
First and foremost, we are not sad, angry or disappointed, and he is more than we could have ever imagined. Our boys are the sweetest, most wonderful gift and we would not change a thing. The love we have for our boys is unreal. Dominic is totally healthy, without heart problems, thyroid issues, or breathing problems, and he passed his hearing test and has been a great eater from the start. We have been so lucky so far.
At this point, milestones are becoming more important and clear to see, so we are beginning to become a part of the DS community so we can use therapy and play to nurture him as much as possible. Lucky for him, he has a twin brother with whom he can learn and play.
I’m happy to put this out there because maybe some other mamas will see it and share advice, or maybe I can help an expectant mama, and maybe it will help us connect more with the DS community.
People’s reactions have been interesting, so by writing this, I’m hoping to avoid some hurtful and ignorant ones. First off, we don’t want or need to “fix” Dominic. Secondly, we are not joking, so please don’t say “shut up”. Lastly, we are not sorry, so please don’t say that you are. I think I just want you to ask if he’s healthy so I can boast about just how healthy he is. Or maybe you could ask anything you would ask a mom of any 3 1/2 month old…does he like tummy time? Actually, yes, he does! You could ask if he’s smiling, so I can show you pictures. You could ask if he’s cooing, but you’ve been warned, I have videos and your heart might burst from all the cuteness.
I don’t have all the answers, I just know how I feel, so I can share about our experience, and I’m happy to do that.
15 thoughts on “Sweetness.”
Wow Brit! Great post and awesome words. Your boys are just darling and so lucky to have you as their mama 🙂 isn’t being a mom the best, craziest thing?? ❤️❤️
Thank you, Kate! Being a mom is the best gift. I know it’s not everyone’s path but it is definitely mine, and I’m so grateful. 💙
Thank you for sharing this. I have seen a few DS families that are active on social media and they are amazing with their stories and bravery. We are not taught as children how to interact with people of different abilities than our own. I hope this is changing. Your boys are beautiful. I love your updates and look forward to seeing them!
Thank you, Mariana!
He’s my little X-Man!!!! 😀 I’m so glad you shared. You are right–nothing to fix, nothing to be sorry for. I think education–of adults–will need to be nurtured, too. With understanding and open hearts I think everyone will come to see Dominic through the lens as he truly is: A precious gemstone that sparkles and shines, just like his brother. 🙂
Mel. Stop making me crying. Holy moly. They’re so lucky to have you!
He looks perfect to me, and always will be..God bless you and your little family.
Thank you, Janet! 💙
You two are going to be the most amazing parents those two boys could have ever been blessed with. I’m excited to share in your learning as you all grow as a family. Can’t wait to see you guys tomorrow evening. Xoxoxo
I hope you’re ready. They’ll spit up on you and steal your heart at the same time. 😍
Adorable boys and such a loving wonderful mom. They will grow up truly blessed. Lv merleen
Dear Brittney, you know I admire you and Marvin with all my heart, and I feel your boys are so lucky to have you as parents. I admired you even more today for how brave and loving you are as a mother, and how willing you are to inspire, connect, and support others with your own experience. I can’t wait to meet Dominic and Giovanni, and to see you guys again. Love you!!!
Britt, I have to tell you my heart is so full, after reading your thoughtful & loving words, & seeing the adorable photos of your precious boys. You are such a special person – so kind & graceful & beautiful. I have no doubt you will help shape your boys to be amazing people too. The world needs more mamas like you! Xoxoxo
You’re too kind, ko, thank you! I know you’re raising two little angels, and I hope our babes will all be friends. xo